Aaron and I do not have a lot of experience fighting. We’ve been married for almost 7 years, and we just don’t fight all that often, for a variety of reasons. So when we do, I’m always taken by surprise. We have friends who have several fights a day, and I can count our fights on one hand. The danger is that if we’re not careful and thoughtful about fighting, we won’t do it well. I don’t want to be caught off guard when conflict does come up; also, we want to make sure we engage in redemptive conflict that prompts each of us toward Jesus and toward each other.
Anyway, I really loved this article, which speaks to why we shouldn’t be surprised when we fight with our spouses. I hope it encourages you!